RESOURCES FOR THE JOURNEY

Short conversations and practical tools to help you understand yourself, your relationships, and what’s happening beneath the surface.

featured resources

Hurt vs. harm: stop apologizing to save the relationship

Sometimes an apology can actually keep us from addressing what’s really happening. In this short conversation, we explore the difference between hurt and harm–and why understanding that difference can change the way we navigate relationships.

How do I know if It's Anger or rage?

Anger and rage can feel similar, but they move us in very different directions. Stephanie and Phil talk about a simple question that can help us tell the difference: Am I trying to move toward relationship—or am I trying to win, control, or protect myself?

why your story matters

The patterns we struggle with usually have a story underneath them. In this short conversation, Stephanie talks about why lasting change involves more than simply trying harder or making a better plan.

  Originally recorded on The Fort Builders Podcast, hosted by Lance Johnson.

you don't have to pretend you aren't scared

Fear often shows up as anxiety, control, irritability, or anger before we ever recognize what’s underneath. In this short conversation, Stephanie talks about the courage it takes to name what is actually happening—and how admitting “I’m scared” can open the door to connection instead of pushing people away.

Originally recorded on The Fort Builders Podcast, hosted by Lance Johnson.

How do I know If I'm actually making progress?

Growth rarely happens in a straight line. Stephanie and Phil talk about how to recognize progress when life still feels messy—and why patience may look more like perseverance than calm.

If You Don't have a no, your yes Can't be trusted

Sometimes we say yes before we’ve even stopped to ask what we actually want or have capacity for. Stephanie talks about how resentment can become a clue that we’ve abandoned our own no —and why learning to have an honest no can make our yes more trustworthy.

full conversations and teachings

Longer conversations for those who want to go deeper into a topic.

Inner Child

Hurt vs Harm

Am I Making Progress?

Growth Through the Admission of Needs

Struggling with God and the Human Condition

I’m In Recovery From ‘Yes”

Diving In or Drawing Back

BOOKS I Recommend

A few books that have shaped the way I think about story, relationships, emotional health, and healing.